Recently I received a video link from my friend. The video is basically about a last lecture given by a professor in America who is dying from pancreatic cancer. I was totally amazed by the attitude he has towards life. Even tough he only has months to live, he didn't live in self pity. Instead he uses the remaining time he has on earth to inspire his students, the people around the world and especially his 3 children with his last lecture on how to live life.
And I believe that's the attitude that everyone of us should have. Imagine if today is your last day on earth, you will have lots of things to do and you will do everything that you can with excellence.
Below is the 10-minute length video of professor Randy Pausch. Hope all of you will be inspired.
"Live everyday as if it is your last day on earth."
- Unknown -
Thursday, April 10, 2008
Thursday, April 3, 2008
Build your Confidence
All of us want to start the year right. But along the way, we might find it more and more difficult to achieve the goal that we have set early of the year. And very often, we may lose our confidence to continue pursuing our goal. We start develop a view of low self-esteem about ourselves,that we are not good enough, we should not do this and that. Eventually we lost our self-confidence.
I was someone with a low self-esteem and afraid of doing anything new. I was totally afraid to talk to strangers. There was a time that my Dad asked me to buy medicine from a pharmacy.I was so afraid that I just told the seller the medicine that I wanted, passed the money, and get the change without asking how much the medicine actually cost. I was so afraid that the seller will argue with me if I said something.
If you consider youself as a low self-esteem or no self-confidence person, I hope following guidelines can you build up your self-confidence.
1.Create a positive view about yourself
Steve Chandler said that the best way to change your belief system is to change the truth about you.Some ways you can do to create a positive view about yourself are:
- Make a positive conclusion/opinion about your ownself. "Positive" means something that build up not pull down.
- Learn to look at positive sides/strength that we have. Even if washing dishes is your skill, because not everybody can washing dishes well.
- Open a self-dialog on positive things that can be done. From the smallest and something that we can do today.Other than that, you need to stop all negative thoughts that coming into your mind, e.g: I don't have any skills, I'm useless, I'm good for nothing, etc. After stopping the negative, we need to replace it with positive and constructive thoughts.
2. Fight for positive will
Next is to come out with a program or agenda for self-contructive action. This can be in the form like having a new goal that we want to accomplish and can be done.It doesn't matter big or small, the main thing is that there must be a change or upgrade to a positive side.The more positive things that we can do, the stronger our self-confidence.
3. Handle problems positively
Self-confidence can be strengthen by telling ourselves that we can overcome our own problem.The more problems we tackled, the stronger our self-confidence. Eventually, we become a person that are not easily give up when problems come.
4. Have a basic positive decision
Nobody can always be confidence that one can handle all problems well.Even Mahatma Gandhi was stumble when his reality changed. But there is something in Gandhi that we can learn from.He said, "Remember that all through history the way of truth and love has always won. There have been tyrants and murderers and for a time they seem invincible but in the end, they always fall -- think of it, ALWAYS."This means, Gandhi self-confidence booseted up when he knew that his path has been laid with a right principles.
5. Have a positive role model
Another important thing is to find someone with positive attitude that we can learn from.This will always required us to continuously open up our eyes and look at those people around us that we can learn from.Someone said we can improve ourselves by learning from 2 things:
a. Life experiences, and
b. Duplicating (learn from other people)
-Author Unknown-
Thursday, March 27, 2008
Get along with people
Getting along with people is one of the most important principle that we need to have, yet it is the harddest thing to be done. Not many people can get along with other people, some people just find it hard to get along with others. The fact is that we as human are social being and we need to relate to others even to those we find hard to get along with.
Once we know how to get along well with other people, we will find ourselves surrounded by many friends. No wonder those who can't get along with other people will tend to be alone and with no friends.
So here are the Ten Commandments of HOW TO GET ALONG WITH PEOPLE by Ann Landers, and I think if we can learn to do all these we have already upgraded ourselves to be a better person that people can get along with.
1. Keep skid chains on your tongue. Always say less than you think. Cultivate a low, persuasive voice. How you say it often counts more than what you say.
2. Make promises sparingly and keep them faithfully, no matter what the cost.
3. Never let an opportunity pass to say a kind and encouraging word to or about somebody. Praise good work, regardless of who did it. If criticism is needed, offer it gently, never harshly.
4. Be interested in others---their pursuits, their work, their homes and families. Make merry with those who rejoice, and weep with those who mourn. Let everyone you meet, however humble, feel that you regard him or her as a person of importance.
5. Don’t burden or depress those around you by dwelling on your minor aches and pains and small disappointments. Remember, everyone is carrying some kind of burden, often heavier than your own.
6. Keep an open mind. Discuss, but don’t argue. It is the mark of a superior mind to be able to disagree without being disagreeable.
7. Let your virtues, if you have any, speak for themselves. Refuse to talk of other’s vices. Discourage gossip. It is a waste of valuable time, and can be extremely destructive.
8. Be careful of another’s feelings. Wit and humor at another person’s expense may do more damage than you will ever know.
9. Pay no attention to disparaging remarks. Remember, the person who carried the message may not be the most accurate reporter in the world, and things become twisted in the retelling. Live so that nobody will believe them.
10. Don’t be too eager to get the credit due you. Do your best, and be patient. Forget about yourself, and let others “remember”. Success is much sweeter that way.
“The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people.”
- Theodore Roosevelt -
Once we know how to get along well with other people, we will find ourselves surrounded by many friends. No wonder those who can't get along with other people will tend to be alone and with no friends.
So here are the Ten Commandments of HOW TO GET ALONG WITH PEOPLE by Ann Landers, and I think if we can learn to do all these we have already upgraded ourselves to be a better person that people can get along with.
1. Keep skid chains on your tongue. Always say less than you think. Cultivate a low, persuasive voice. How you say it often counts more than what you say.
2. Make promises sparingly and keep them faithfully, no matter what the cost.
3. Never let an opportunity pass to say a kind and encouraging word to or about somebody. Praise good work, regardless of who did it. If criticism is needed, offer it gently, never harshly.
4. Be interested in others---their pursuits, their work, their homes and families. Make merry with those who rejoice, and weep with those who mourn. Let everyone you meet, however humble, feel that you regard him or her as a person of importance.
5. Don’t burden or depress those around you by dwelling on your minor aches and pains and small disappointments. Remember, everyone is carrying some kind of burden, often heavier than your own.
6. Keep an open mind. Discuss, but don’t argue. It is the mark of a superior mind to be able to disagree without being disagreeable.
7. Let your virtues, if you have any, speak for themselves. Refuse to talk of other’s vices. Discourage gossip. It is a waste of valuable time, and can be extremely destructive.
8. Be careful of another’s feelings. Wit and humor at another person’s expense may do more damage than you will ever know.
9. Pay no attention to disparaging remarks. Remember, the person who carried the message may not be the most accurate reporter in the world, and things become twisted in the retelling. Live so that nobody will believe them.
10. Don’t be too eager to get the credit due you. Do your best, and be patient. Forget about yourself, and let others “remember”. Success is much sweeter that way.
“The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people.”
- Theodore Roosevelt -
Tuesday, March 25, 2008
Balance
To me, balance is one of the most important aspect in life. Without balance, you will find yourself living in a terrible world, you will not be able to find happiness and you can't live your life to the fullest.
There must be a balance in everything that you do, your work, study,family,service,rest. Once you have a balance life, everything that you do will seems more meaningful and and you will be full of purpose.
I've heard of lot of young business man too busy with their work that they neglect their family, a lot of students too busy with their study that they neglect their health. They end up divorce, broken family, sick in their body, and worst they went insane.
Who we are, is NOT what we do to make a living. Who we are is a balance of our family, our work, ourselves!
There are times when we have to lose balance - a special project at work, or a family matter at home - but consciously focusing on balance keeps everything in check.
Catherine Pulsifer said, "While all aspects of our life are important, without a balance, you become addicted and like all addictions you lose."
* No balance with your family - you lose them.
* No balance with your work - you lose your perspective and you actually lose focus on the important aspects of your job.
* No balance with yourself - you forget who you are and when you retire you have nothing!
Even Bill Gates said this, "In my 20s, I worked very, very hard. I have a much more balanced life now."
So, there should not be an excuses like, "I don't have enough time", "If only I have more time in a day", "If only my job is not so demanding", "I wish I can multiply myself", etc. The fact is that all of us have the same hours in a day. Start to to find a balance in your life. List down what are the important matters and the effect of not doing it, then do the first thing first.
"Live a balanced life - learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day some."
- Robert Fulghum -
There must be a balance in everything that you do, your work, study,family,service,rest. Once you have a balance life, everything that you do will seems more meaningful and and you will be full of purpose.
I've heard of lot of young business man too busy with their work that they neglect their family, a lot of students too busy with their study that they neglect their health. They end up divorce, broken family, sick in their body, and worst they went insane.
Who we are, is NOT what we do to make a living. Who we are is a balance of our family, our work, ourselves!
There are times when we have to lose balance - a special project at work, or a family matter at home - but consciously focusing on balance keeps everything in check.
Catherine Pulsifer said, "While all aspects of our life are important, without a balance, you become addicted and like all addictions you lose."
* No balance with your family - you lose them.
* No balance with your work - you lose your perspective and you actually lose focus on the important aspects of your job.
* No balance with yourself - you forget who you are and when you retire you have nothing!
Even Bill Gates said this, "In my 20s, I worked very, very hard. I have a much more balanced life now."
So, there should not be an excuses like, "I don't have enough time", "If only I have more time in a day", "If only my job is not so demanding", "I wish I can multiply myself", etc. The fact is that all of us have the same hours in a day. Start to to find a balance in your life. List down what are the important matters and the effect of not doing it, then do the first thing first.
"Live a balanced life - learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day some."
- Robert Fulghum -
Thursday, February 21, 2008
Quiz
Let's start with a quiz:
1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world.
2. Name the countries that won World Cup for the past 20 years.
3. Name the top five female tennis player.
4. Name ten people who have won the Nobel prize.
5. Name the last half dozen Academy Award winners for best actor and actress.
How did you do?
The point is, none of us remember the headliners of yesterday.
These are no second-rate achievers. They are the best in their fields.
But the applause dies.
Awards tarnish.
Achievements are forgotten.
Accolades and certificates are buried with their owners.
Here's another quiz. See how you do on this one:
1. List a few teachers who aided your journey through school.
2. Name three friends who have helped you through a difficult time.
3. Name five people who have taught you something worthwhile.
4. Think of a few people who have made you feel appreciated and special.
5. Think of five people you enjoy spending time with.
Easier?
The lesson: The people who make a difference in your life are not the ones with the most credentials... the most money... or the most awards. They are simply the ones that care the most.
"People don't care how much you know, until they know how much you care."
- John C. Maxwell -
1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world.
2. Name the countries that won World Cup for the past 20 years.
3. Name the top five female tennis player.
4. Name ten people who have won the Nobel prize.
5. Name the last half dozen Academy Award winners for best actor and actress.
How did you do?
The point is, none of us remember the headliners of yesterday.
These are no second-rate achievers. They are the best in their fields.
But the applause dies.
Awards tarnish.
Achievements are forgotten.
Accolades and certificates are buried with their owners.
Here's another quiz. See how you do on this one:
1. List a few teachers who aided your journey through school.
2. Name three friends who have helped you through a difficult time.
3. Name five people who have taught you something worthwhile.
4. Think of a few people who have made you feel appreciated and special.
5. Think of five people you enjoy spending time with.
Easier?
The lesson: The people who make a difference in your life are not the ones with the most credentials... the most money... or the most awards. They are simply the ones that care the most.
"People don't care how much you know, until they know how much you care."
- John C. Maxwell -
Thursday, February 14, 2008
Valentine's Day
All I am, all I'll be
Everything in this world
All that I'll ever need
Is in your eyes
Shining at me
When you smile I can feel
All my passion unfolding
Your hand brushes mine
And a thousand sensations
Seduce me 'cause I
I do cherish you
For the rest of my life
You don't have to think twice
I will love you still
From the depths of my soul
It's beyond my control
I've waited so long to say this to you
If you're asking do I love you this much
I do
In my world, before you
I lived outside my emotions
Didn't know where I was going
'Till that day I found you
How you opened my life
To a new paradise
In a world torn by change
Still with all my heart
'Till my dying day
Everything in this world
All that I'll ever need
Is in your eyes
Shining at me
When you smile I can feel
All my passion unfolding
Your hand brushes mine
And a thousand sensations
Seduce me 'cause I
I do cherish you
For the rest of my life
You don't have to think twice
I will love you still
From the depths of my soul
It's beyond my control
I've waited so long to say this to you
If you're asking do I love you this much
I do
In my world, before you
I lived outside my emotions
Didn't know where I was going
'Till that day I found you
How you opened my life
To a new paradise
In a world torn by change
Still with all my heart
'Till my dying day
That's the lyric from 98 degree's song titled 'I Do Cherish You'. Anyway, please do really cherish the people you love; your family, your buddies, your boyfriend, girlfriend, your husband, wife, and everyone around us. Because you do not know what you have until you lose it.
So, Happy Valentine's Day to everyone =)
"When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible"
-Harry Burns (When Harry met Sally)-
Monday, February 11, 2008
Railways
A group of kids were playing nearby two railways. First railway is active where a train normally passes by, while sedond railway is no longer active.There is a kid playing at the inactive railway, while the rest are at the active railway.
Suddenly there is a train approaching in a high speed, and you are at the train control station and in charge of controlling the direction of the train.Will you shift the train to the inactive railway and save a group of kids playing at the active railway, but this means you are sacrificing the life of a kid that was plauing at the inactive railway.Or you will keep the train at the right railway where the train suppose to be at?
Let's take a time and think what kind of decision shall we take.
Most people will choose to shift the train direction and only sacrifice a life of one person.May be you have the same choice because by saving the life of many kids and lost a life of one kid is a rational decision and it's allowed morally and emotionally.
But do you realize that the kid that choose to play at the inactive railway, is making right decision because he choose to play at the safe place.Beside that, he must be sacrificed because of the carelessness of the other kids that were playing at the dangerous place.
This dilemma happened around us almost everyday. In the Office, society, politics and especially in democratics environment, minority has to be sacrificed for the need of majority.A kid's life that choose not to play with his friends at the dangerous railway has been ignored.and may be we might not regret that this incident happened.
Someone said he will not change the direction of the train because he believes that the group of kids that were playing at the active railway know very well that the railway is still active.So they will run once they heard the sound of approaching train.If the direction was shifted to inactive railway, the kid that were playing at inactive railway will surely die because he never thought of a train will pass by that railway.Beside that, the reason a lane was being deactivated was probably the lane was already unsafe.If the direction of the train was changed to the inactive railway, we have put the lives of all the passengers in danger.And may be the step to save a group of kids and sacrifice a kid, will end up sacrificing hundreds of lives in the train.
We have to know that life is full of difficult choices and decisions to made.And may be we might not realize that a quick decision may not always be the right decision.
"Something that is right may not always be popular and something that is popular may not always be right"
-Anon-
Suddenly there is a train approaching in a high speed, and you are at the train control station and in charge of controlling the direction of the train.Will you shift the train to the inactive railway and save a group of kids playing at the active railway, but this means you are sacrificing the life of a kid that was plauing at the inactive railway.Or you will keep the train at the right railway where the train suppose to be at?
Let's take a time and think what kind of decision shall we take.
Most people will choose to shift the train direction and only sacrifice a life of one person.May be you have the same choice because by saving the life of many kids and lost a life of one kid is a rational decision and it's allowed morally and emotionally.
But do you realize that the kid that choose to play at the inactive railway, is making right decision because he choose to play at the safe place.Beside that, he must be sacrificed because of the carelessness of the other kids that were playing at the dangerous place.
This dilemma happened around us almost everyday. In the Office, society, politics and especially in democratics environment, minority has to be sacrificed for the need of majority.A kid's life that choose not to play with his friends at the dangerous railway has been ignored.and may be we might not regret that this incident happened.
Someone said he will not change the direction of the train because he believes that the group of kids that were playing at the active railway know very well that the railway is still active.So they will run once they heard the sound of approaching train.If the direction was shifted to inactive railway, the kid that were playing at inactive railway will surely die because he never thought of a train will pass by that railway.Beside that, the reason a lane was being deactivated was probably the lane was already unsafe.If the direction of the train was changed to the inactive railway, we have put the lives of all the passengers in danger.And may be the step to save a group of kids and sacrifice a kid, will end up sacrificing hundreds of lives in the train.
We have to know that life is full of difficult choices and decisions to made.And may be we might not realize that a quick decision may not always be the right decision.
"Something that is right may not always be popular and something that is popular may not always be right"
-Anon-
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